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Ch. 2- Return to Romance

Hope everyone is having a great day, thus far.

Here is my commentary on Ch. 2 of “The Politically Incorrect Guide to Women, Sex, and Feminism.”

What ever happened to chivalry? I mean, honestly. What happened to guys opening doors for girls? Or guys making the first move to ask a girl out on a date?

I’ll tell you what happened! Feminists happened! And according to them “traditional gender roles in romantic relationships are sexist and stifling for women” (pg. 7). So, if a guy opens a door for me, he is pretty much saying “Here. Let me get the door for you. It’s too heavy for your female arms.” Please, people. If a guy offers to pay for your dinner he isn’t a misogynist! He is being polite and CHIVALROUS! He is showing you respect.

I have hope, nonetheless. I don’t think chivalry is completely dead.

While feminists have continuously striven for female empowerment (lol), “many women have experiences a loss of power int he post-sexual revolution dating environment.” Well, no DUH. I mean. Look at our society right now. Women are viewed as sex objects. We have to look a certain way, weigh a certain weight, have our hair a certain way, act a certain way. And everything is sexualized. It’s no wonder women have lost power in the dating arena. Men aren’t expected to act or treat women with respect. And when a girl comes along and says no to premarital sex, or doesn’t act or look a certain way, when they say NO to the Status Quo of being a sex object, to being “free”, guys don’t know what to do. It’s out of the norm for them. So, here is how I see this. Women have lost power in the dating scene because they have become sex objects. “Little or nothing is expected from men by the women who sleep with them.” (pg. 14) I don’t want to be the girl no one expects anything from! You better expect a lot out of me. You better respect me. No respect? I don’t want anything to do with you. I have a brain! I’m smart. Feminists are going about this all wrong. They are unable to see that women are MORE empowered when they don’t give a man sex, when they have self-respect, when they see the good in themselves. When they see that they are special and beautiful and smart.

I’m a traditional gal. A relationship is all about respect, and I usually know right off the bat is a guy is respectful or not. It’s pretty obvious by how he speaks, the language he uses, how he dresses, his mannerisms, etc. I have high expectations of people, especially guys.

And so. In our society today, virginity is not considered a virtue. It is something to be thrown away. Sex is not about love; it is about instant pleasure. My friends will tell me that I need to loosen up, have some fun. But there is nothing “fun” in dating every guy you come in contact with, nothing fun about sleeping with different people. I respect myself too much to be someone’s “notch on the bedpost”, or another girl to add to the list of girls they’ve dated. I want more out of life. But this doesn’t mean that I’m giving in to men. Oh no. I’m in control here despite what feminists may say.

The chapter continues like this. It talks about how divorce means nothing anymore. Marriage means nothing. If you get marry and decide you don’t like the person anymore… No biggy. Divorce them. Find another one.

There is “no obligation to continue the relationship” in our society. How sad is that?

I really enjoy the part of the different types of relationships, on pg. 12-13. The “joined at the hip” relationship. The “hanging out” relationship. The hooker uppers. In all of this, women have lost power. They’re blind to the truth!

I could keep talking about all of this, but I think you could get more out of it if you read the book. I urge all of you to get it! It’s really a great read, easy read also. Have a great day everyone!

~Lucy

“Therefore, I will hedge in her way with thorns and erect a wall against her, so that she cannot find her paths. If she runs after her lovers, she shall not overtake them; if she looks for them she shall not find them. They she shall say, ‘I will go back to my first husband, for it was better with me then than now.'” Hosea 2: 8-9

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