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Why Can’t It Be Different

I’m going to switch this post up a bit. Instead of ranting on about the politics of today’s world, I think I’m going to write a little post about my life.

I recently just broke up with my boyfriend of a… wait for it….. whomping two whole months!! I know, I know. I live a dangerous dating life.

Nevertheless, I am sad that it has ended. I’ve like this guy for many many months now (more than I will admit to you folk), and when we finally started dating I was super-duper excited. And of course I thought it would last more than two months… It didn’t.

Plus, seeing as we are both Resident Advisers in the same residence hall, our little fling was a bit illegal. It was a closet, under the table, sort of relationship. Definitely not exactly what one might call “healthy.”

We bickered somewhat often. He never took me on a date. We could somewhat hold a conversation, but nothing too serious. We didn’t have the same outlooks on life. We didn’t share the same values. We didn’t care about the same politics (meaning, he didn’t care about politics at all). We didn’t have the same interests; he was a video game person… I couldn’t care less. He doesn’t know what he wants in his future. I know exactly (or so I think) what I want. He didn’t know what he wanted in the relationship. I knew I wanted more.

And at this point your asking… Lucy, what did you have in common? What attracted you to each other? NO IDEA.

Still, I am sitting here in my dorm room, quite sad. And I’m trying to figure out why.

What have I lost really? I’m still healthy. I still have God. I still have my family, my friends. My sanity.

Perhaps I’m sad for superficial reasons. Maybe I just liked the idea of having a boyfriend, even if he wasn’t exactly up to par. I could definitely fit in with my friends better, seeing as all of them except for 2 are dating someone.

Maybe I’m sad because I wasn’t the oddball out in our group and now I am again.

I know it’s not their fault, but sometimes my friends make me angry. When the group of us hang out, there’s always PDA, almost to the point where I either 1) tell them to knock it off because it’s disgusting or 2) just get up and leave because I can’t take it anymore.

I realize this could be me being too uptight or too selfish or too self-pitying, but sometimes I feel like my friends are just flaunting their relationships in front of me, almost like a “Hey. I’ve got someone. Where’s yours?” kinda thing. I know that sounds ridiculous… I know I know. And I hate that I’m even thinking it, but our dinner conversations consist of their boyfriends and girlfriends, of them holding hands with each other and kissing and, I don’t know, being flirty and all PDA-y. Of course, I’m fine with listening. I’m glad my friends are happy. Sometimes though, I don’t care. Can anyone empathize with me on this?

Even though I’m saying and thinking these things, I do know one thing: God has someone so special out there for me that I can’t even imagine him. I hate that I have to be so patient! I hate that I don’t know when I will meet him, or how I will meet him. I wish I could have him right now. God has different plans. I have a lot more growing up to do. I have many things to accomplish before I get to meet my special someone.

I complain a lot. I whine. I feel sorry for myself. I cry and scream and ask “Why me?” I pray to God for someone. But at the end of the day, even though I don’t want to admit it, I know that I have a fantastic life. And the only person I NEED in my life is God and my family. He will provide all the rest. It all comes down to PATIENCE. Ugh… that horrible word! It’s SO HARD!

I know that God will help me through anything. I know that God will give me exactly what I need, but not necessarily what I want. I know that it comes down to God. I can do nothing without God in my life.

My prayer for you and for me is this: That we may trust in God to help us get through the difficult things in life. That he grants us with the patience and understanding to realize that God does have a plan for our lives; we will find out sooner or later what it is. I pray that God helps us wait for the person we are supposed to spend the rest of our lives with. I pray that He helps that other person wait for us. We should make the most out of our lives and stop feeling sorry for ourselves. I pray that we do everything for the glory of God in the Highest. Amen.

~Lucy

You Are Beautiful

I’m lying in bed a few nights ago, trying to sleep, but am kept awake thinking about life.

I had read a couple of comments on YouTube earlier that day that were disturbing to me. They were written by young girls pining for a boyfriend, for love, and how this song (“Just a Kiss by Lady Antebellum if you were interested) inspired them to tell the boy they liked how they felt. One of the girls was 14, I’m assuming an 8th grader.

Maybe you’ll ask, “Lucy, what’s so wrong with that?”

It worries me because it reminds me of what I see a lot in our society today. Girls are expected to maintain a certain image and they’re expected to have a boyfriend everyday of every week. So this is my public service post.

To all the young girls out there, and to all the young college girls like myself…

You are beautiful. You are special. You don’t need a boyfriend. You don’t need to be super skinny and starve yourself. You don’t need to change your image in order for someone to love you.

I am 19 years old. I kind of dated this one guy my junior year of high school, completely ignoring all those thoughts and concerns in the back of my head. I say kind of dated him because I didn’t really like him, he was way more into the relationship than I was, and it lasted less than a month. Not much of a relationship, huh? And the only reason I did it was because I thought I needed a boyfriend. I quickly realized I didn’t.

Girls, don’t give your heart away too soon. You don’t need a boy to make you happy! I haven’t dated a guy since my junior year because I realized that if I wanted to put in all the effort it took to maintain a relationship, I wanted the boy to be worth it.

Take things slow. You don’t have to start dating a guy just because you think you may like him. Last year (my freshman year of college), I met this guy who was in the marching band with me. He was nice. We hung out a few times as friends, and I started to think that I might want to date him. But after a week or so, I realized I didn’t. And I realized I didn’t even really like him as a friend. Can you imagine what would’ve happen if I had just thrown myself into a relationship only to find out a few days later that he was a creep? Not only would that hurt me, but also him. Completely not worth it.

All you beautiful girls out there need to realize that you are BEAUTIFUL! Brown hair, green eyes, blond hair, blue eyes, curly hair, straight hair- it doesn’t matter! Maybe you are a little curvy like I am. Thank makes you unique! That makes you special and beautiful! How boring our world would be with girls who all looked the same. Lame.

Just remember that you are made in the image of God. He made you beautiful. He loves you. Trust in Him. If you feel like you must have a boyfriend, pray to Him for patience and for your future husband. It will make you feel better, I promise.

You sister in Christ, Lucy

“God created man in the image of himself, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27)

“In love there is no room for fear, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear implies punishment and no one who is afraid has come to perfection in love.” (John 4:18)

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You trust in God, trust also in me.” (John 14:1)

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