Has anyone else noticed how the main topic of many of women’s magazines is sex? Cosmo, Glamour, Women’s Health online has a sex page, Marie Claire. The list goes on. It’s all about recreational sex.
The Pol. Incorrect Guide to Women, Sex, and Feminism makes an interesting observation. “Women lost the sexual revolution.” (pg. 19)
Recreational sexual activity was supposed to put women on the same playing field as men, show men that they have just as much control over their own bodies. Except what they have done instead is show that they’ll have sex whenever and where ever.
As a college student, the temptation of pre-marital sex is everywhere. I often hear “You’re in college; you’re supposed to have sex.” Or “Let’s loose every now and then, Lucy. Have fun!”
Ugh, no. Sex may be a part of the majority of college students lives, but it’s not going to be a part of mine. You can give me grief all you want, you can tell me I’m too uptight, that I’m too conservative. But all that’s going to do is make me stand more firm to my beliefs. It’s going to have the opposite effect on me.
On pg. 21, Lukas explains how this idea of recreation sex doesn’t end with college. “Our pop culture seems to celebrate- even while still sneering at- infamously promiscuous young women.”
I interpret this statement as such: As young college students, as adults, we are supposed to have casual sex, but society looks down at promiscuous women as easy, sluts, etc.
So where is the balance? There is none. It’s an oxymoron. Have lots of sex! But not too much. Give your body to multiple men! But not too many.
My goodness. If anyone thinks this message is just in the popular media, on television shows, in popular magazines, I’m sorry, but you are very mistaken.
In my sociology class, we are talking about gender inequality, and this idea has come up multiple times of having many sex partners and it being an ok thing. Women’s study classes are all about women’s sexual roles. Check out pg. 23 for some quotes from a few textbooks.
“Sexual exploration is a key element of women’s liberation” (pg. 22).
Here’s a question. If casual sex was supposed to liberate women, how come there are still sexual assaults, rapes, sexual harassment against women? I think we have created a monster. Not only are there more risks to STD’s, but abortion rates are higher than ever because women are getting pregnant and killing their unwanted child. It’s disgusting. Not only are they ruining their own lives, but the lives of another.
“Women has adopted the worst characteristics of men.” pg. 25 Haha. So true! The paragraph after this quote is excellent.
The rest of the chapter is about how women are unable to separate love and sex. And I truly believe this. Women are different from men, and I believe that biology has a great deal to do with this, no matter how many times my Sociology prof. tells me I’m wrong. We are just different from men. I’m not sure why our society today is so persistent on making sure that there isn’t love in sexual relationships. “Women are warned against engaging in casual sex with someone in whom they might possible be interested for a real relationship.” (pg. 29) Man, this is sad…
Here’s my take on things. I’m going to present myself with modesty. I’m not going to walk around with a super low-cut shirt, or shorty short shorts. Why? Because I want a guy to respect me for my mind, my spirit, my personality. Not because he thinks he can get some. Oh, Lucy, that’s so cliché! Well, I respect myself too much to throw my body around. I just wish my friends could see things the same way.
Have a great weekend everyone!
“My child, be modest in your self-esteem, and value yourself at your proper worth.” Sirach 10:28