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Stuff That Drives Me Crazy

We all have those days. You know… Those one’s where nothing goes right. You lose everything. You are late. Get stuck in traffic. Forget your books, forget to do your homework, forget to set your alarm and wake up in a panic for class. Have butter fingers; drop everything. Stub your toes. Smack yourself in the face. Forget about an important meeting. Forget to study for your mid-term. The list goes on. You can add to it if you wish.

This is how much talent I have. Yesterday I cut my arm on the little thing on the microwave that locks the door into place. Yep. Went to take out my dinner and underestimated the distance I needed to move my arm to close the door. Have a huge scrap. It actually hurt quite a bit…

Anyways! I love Francesca Battistelli’s music, and this song makes me feel better about myself and my horrible days and those little things that drive me crazy. Hope it helps y’all too!! STAY POSITIVE!! ūüėÄ

~Lucy

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Why Can’t It Be Different

I’m going to switch this post up a bit. Instead of ranting on about the politics of today’s world, I think I’m going to write a little post about my life.

I recently just broke up with my boyfriend of a… wait for it….. whomping two whole months!! I know, I know. I live a dangerous dating life.

Nevertheless, I am sad that it has ended. I’ve like this guy for many many months now (more than I will admit to you folk), and when we finally started dating I was super-duper excited. And of course I thought it would last more than two months… It didn’t.

Plus, seeing as we are both Resident Advisers in the same residence hall, our little fling was a bit illegal. It was a closet, under the table, sort of relationship. Definitely not exactly what one might call “healthy.”

We bickered somewhat often. He never took me on a date. We could somewhat hold a conversation, but nothing too serious. We didn’t have the same outlooks on life. We didn’t share the same values. We didn’t care about the same politics (meaning, he didn’t care about politics at all). We didn’t have the same interests; he was a video game person… I couldn’t care less. He doesn’t know what he wants in his future. I know exactly (or so I think) what I want. He didn’t know what he wanted in the relationship. I knew I wanted more.

And at this point your asking… Lucy, what did you have in common? What attracted you to each other? NO IDEA.

Still, I am sitting here in my dorm room, quite sad. And I’m trying to figure out why.

What have I lost really? I’m still healthy. I still have God. I still have my family, my friends. My sanity.

Perhaps I’m sad for superficial reasons. Maybe I just liked the idea of having a boyfriend, even if he wasn’t exactly up to par. I could definitely fit in with my friends better, seeing as all of them except for 2 are dating someone.

Maybe I’m sad because I wasn’t the oddball out in our group and now I am again.

I know it’s not their fault, but sometimes my friends make me angry. When the group of us hang out, there’s always PDA, almost to the point where I either 1) tell them to knock it off because it’s disgusting or 2) just get up and leave because I can’t take it anymore.

I realize this could be me being too uptight or too selfish or too self-pitying, but sometimes I feel like my friends are just flaunting their relationships in front of me, almost like a “Hey. I’ve got someone. Where’s yours?” kinda thing. I know that sounds ridiculous… I know I know. And I hate that I’m even thinking it, but our dinner conversations consist of their boyfriends and girlfriends, of them holding hands with each other and kissing and, I don’t know, being flirty and all PDA-y. Of course, I’m fine with listening. I’m glad my friends are happy. Sometimes though, I don’t care. Can anyone empathize with me on this?

Even though I’m saying and thinking these things, I do know one thing: God has someone so special out there for me that I can’t even imagine him. I hate that I have to be so patient! I hate that I don’t know when I will meet him, or how I will meet him. I wish I could have him right now. God has different plans. I have a lot more growing up to do. I have many things to accomplish before I get to meet my special someone.

I complain a lot. I whine. I feel sorry for myself. I cry and scream and ask “Why me?” I pray to God for someone. But at the end of the day, even though I don’t want to admit it, I know that I have a fantastic life. And the only person I NEED in my life is God and my family. He will provide all the rest. It all comes down to PATIENCE. Ugh… that horrible word! It’s SO HARD!

I know that God will help me through anything. I know that God will give me exactly what I need, but not necessarily what I want. I know that it comes down to God. I can do nothing without God in my life.

My prayer for you and for me is this: That we may trust in God to help us get through the difficult things in life. That he grants us with the patience and understanding to realize that God does have a plan for our lives; we will find out sooner or later what it is. I pray that God helps us wait for the person we are supposed to spend the rest of our lives with. I pray that He helps that other person wait for us. We should make the most out of our lives and stop feeling sorry for ourselves. I pray that we do everything for the glory of God in the Highest. Amen.

~Lucy

Ch. 3 Sex: Love’s Got Something to Do With It

Has anyone else noticed how the main topic of many of women’s magazines is sex? Cosmo, Glamour, Women’s Health online has a sex page, Marie Claire. The list goes on. It’s all about recreational sex.

The Pol. Incorrect Guide to Women, Sex, and Feminism makes an interesting observation. “Women lost the sexual revolution.” (pg. 19)

Recreational sexual activity was supposed to put women on the same playing field as men, show men that they have just as much control over their own bodies. Except what they have done instead is show that they’ll have sex whenever and where ever.

As a college student, the temptation of pre-marital sex is everywhere. I often hear “You’re in college; you’re supposed to have sex.” Or “Let’s loose every now and then, Lucy. Have fun!”

Ugh, no. Sex may be a part of the majority of college students lives, but it’s not going to be a part of mine. You can give me grief all you want, you can tell me I’m too uptight, that I’m too conservative. But all that’s going to do is make me stand more firm to my beliefs. It’s going to have the opposite effect on me.

On pg. 21, Lukas explains how this idea of recreation sex doesn’t end with college. “Our pop culture seems to celebrate- even while still sneering at- infamously promiscuous young women.”

I interpret this statement as such: As young college students, as adults, we are supposed to have casual sex, but society looks down at promiscuous women as easy, sluts, etc.

So where is the balance? There is none. It’s an oxymoron. Have lots of sex! But not too much. Give your body to multiple men! But not too many.

My goodness. If anyone thinks this message is just in the popular media, on television shows, in popular magazines, I’m sorry, but you are very mistaken.

In my sociology class, we are talking about gender inequality, and this idea has come up multiple times of having many sex partners and it being an ok thing. Women’s study classes are all about women’s sexual roles. Check out pg. 23 for some quotes from a few textbooks.

“Sexual exploration is a key element of women’s liberation” (pg. 22).

Here’s a question. If casual sex was supposed to liberate women, how come there are still sexual assaults, rapes, sexual harassment against women? I think we have created a monster. Not only are there more risks to STD’s, but abortion rates are higher than ever because women are getting pregnant and killing their unwanted child. It’s disgusting. Not only are they ruining their own lives, but the lives of another.

“Women has adopted the worst characteristics of men.” pg. 25 Haha. So true! The paragraph after this quote is excellent.

The rest of the chapter is about how women are unable to separate love and sex. And I truly believe this. Women are different from men, and I believe that biology has a great deal to do with this, no matter how many times my Sociology prof. tells me I’m wrong. We are just different from men. I’m not sure why our society today is so persistent on making sure that there isn’t love in sexual relationships. “Women are warned against engaging in casual sex with someone in whom they might possible be interested for a real relationship.” (pg. 29) Man, this is sad…

Here’s my take on things. I’m going to present myself with modesty. I’m not going to walk around with a super low-cut shirt, or shorty short shorts. Why? Because I want a guy to respect me for my mind, my spirit, my personality.¬†Not because he thinks he can get some.¬†Oh, Lucy, that’s so clich√©! Well, I respect myself too much to throw my body around. I just wish my friends could see things the same way.

Have a great weekend everyone!

~Lucy

“My child, be modest in your self-esteem, and value yourself at your proper worth.” Sirach 10:28

 

“The Blind Shall See and the Truth Shall Set Them Free”

Good Morning y’all!

I was getting ready for classes this morning, and I like to read the news and whatnot while I’m eating my cereal.

And I found this great article! It is one of those things where you find exactly what you need at the right time…. God does work in mysterious ways. =)

This specific article was written by “The Happy Priest,”¬†Fr. James Farfaglia, about how in our society today, we are not able to see the objective truth in things. We are blinded by pride, by ignorance, “erroneous opinions,” and the lack of religion in our society.

This is a fantastic article. Fr. Farfaglia makes an amazing point: “We must move beyond the illusory images that only appear to be reality.¬†We must have the openness to question and not accept blindly everything that is presented to us by modern culture.”

He also speaks of the differences between the left and right; The left disregards any traditional values in modern society and speaks out against many traditional family values. And while the right realizes the immoralities in our society, they “are void of any Christian charity.” I find that he is right in this point, and I am glad that he said it.

Please read the article. It is enlightening.

Have a great, sunshiny day!

http://catholic.org/hf/faith/story.php?id=40913

~Lucy

“Think of what is above, not of what is on Earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ your life appears, then you too will appear with Him in glory.” Colossians 3:2-4

What is it to be “open-minded”?

Often times conservatives are accused of being closed-minded, or NOT being open-minded. This is a shame because while I believe that certain individuals can be closed-minded and unwilling to see things from a new perspective, the conservative argument, and the values and morals that conservatives base their arguments are not close-minded principles.

So I ask you.

What does it mean to be open-minded? Are there different definitions?

The dictionary.com definition of “open-minded” is¬†having¬†or¬†showing¬†a¬†mind¬†receptive¬†to¬†new¬†ideas¬†or arguments. Fair enough. I would agree with this definition.

How are conservatives, as a whole of course, not open-minded? Is it just because we won’t allow so called gay “marriages”? Or because we are going protect the lives of the unborn and not give into the selfish arguments of the Pro-choice groups? Are we closed minded because we believe that government should be as small as possible, leaving the state governments stronger, and thus, giving the people more power? I could keep going.

Based on this logic, I think that there could be another definition for being open-minded. I think this is how the left sees it.

Conservatives are closed-minded, hence, NOT open-minded, because we don’t agree with the liberal’s point of view.

Eh, you don’t agree that gays should be able to enter into marriage? You are closed-minded. You are homophobic.

You don’t think women should be allowed the choice to abort their baby if they want? Closed-minded. You obviously don’t want right for women. You keep oppressing them.

You think that Christian morals and values should be upheld in our country? That’s closed-minded because what if it will offend the Jewish community, or Goodness forbid, the Muslims. Let’s allow them to build a Mosque on Ground Zero, but take away your National Day of Prayer.

This mind set it ridiculous.

Well, my conservative collegiates, how about we use this argument against the liberals.

You don’t see that marriage is a union between one man, one woman, and GOD? How about you start opening your mind that there is something greater in this life than always getting what you want. Just because we don’t advocate for gay marriage, doesn’t mean we are homophobic. We are not criticizing the person, we are not saying that they don’t have a right to be happy. We just don’t agree or condone the act.

You don’t see the sanctity and dignity in every human life, even those of unborn children? How about you start opening your mind to the joys of life, the simple things, the beauty and innocence of babies? How about you start seeing that we were ALL created equal. Whites, blacks, asians, unborn babies. They are humans; they have more than “potential.” They are human. They have a soul. We are all equal in God’s eyes, and He created us all equal.

If liberals want us to start seeing their side more, maybe they should work on seeing ours. They can say that conservatives need to be more open-minded all they want, but we can use the same argument.

I hope y’all see where I’m coming from here. I would love to hear what you guys think.

I hope it’s sunny where you are, because it’s a gorgeous day here. Sunny and warm. Makes me thankful for all I have in this life, and all that I have to fight for.

May God bless you on this day.

~Lucy

Let’s Stay Positive

In light of the Lenten season, for the next 40 days I am going to try to focus on positive stories and use this blog to encourage optimism. I will try to avoid negativity as much as I possibly can. Hopefully, I can encourage all of you to focus more on the positive and less on the negative things in this world.

~ Lucy

Prayer to St. Francis of Assisi

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy. Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

Do Nothing for 2 Minutes.

One of my friends posted this on Fb. Checked it out, and it is a great quick stress reliever. The sounds of the ocean are always a good way to clear your mind. =)

http://www.donothingfor2minutes.com/

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