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Help is Not on the Way

http://www.onenewsnow.com/Church/Default.aspx?id=1472222&fb_comment_id=fbc_10150390555149785_19456400_10150390859344785#f35be8b48

Why is it that Catholics (and other Pro-Life, Christian churches) are seen as horrid and damnifying simply because they do not condone abortion?

Jesus taught us all to help those less fortunate than us, to help the poor and needy, the sick and hungry. He calls us to help the hurt and the suffering.

That is exactly what the Catholic church was attempting to do when it requested the money to help victims of human trafficking. BUT. Because they would not provide abortion services or birth control, the Catholic church was denied the money and it was redistributed to various other organizations who would probably inflict more hurt and pain upon those victims through abortions.

I would be interested to see what these other institutions are that received the money. They might think that they are looking out for the best interests of trafficking victims, but they are not.

Those individuals (mostly women I’m going to assume) have already been beaten, humiliated, raped, and worse. They have been exposed to psychological damaging circumstances. And the government feels that the best way to deal with these issues is to provide them with abortions? Which are also physically and emotionally scarring?

It’s like they’re saying, “You’ve probably been through heck and back. But hey! What’s one more traumatizing event? We’ll abort your baby for you and now not only will you have to deal with the memories of your trafficking experience but also of your baby who will never experience life.”

That’s great.

Sorry to be so blunt and crude, but this is reality. No point in trying to hide it or make it into something it’s not. The issue of abortion is not about sunshine and rainbows. It’s about murder, taking the life of an innocent being without any regard. It’s so incredibly disturbing.

~Lucy

“And the King will answer, ‘In truth I tell you, in so far as you did this to one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did it to me.'”
“Then he will answer, ‘In truth I tell you, in so far as you neglected to do this to one of the least of these, you neglected to do it to me.'” (Matthew 25: 40 & 45)

You Are Beautiful

I’m lying in bed a few nights ago, trying to sleep, but am kept awake thinking about life.

I had read a couple of comments on YouTube earlier that day that were disturbing to me. They were written by young girls pining for a boyfriend, for love, and how this song (“Just a Kiss by Lady Antebellum if you were interested) inspired them to tell the boy they liked how they felt. One of the girls was 14, I’m assuming an 8th grader.

Maybe you’ll ask, “Lucy, what’s so wrong with that?”

It worries me because it reminds me of what I see a lot in our society today. Girls are expected to maintain a certain image and they’re expected to have a boyfriend everyday of every week. So this is my public service post.

To all the young girls out there, and to all the young college girls like myself…

You are beautiful. You are special. You don’t need a boyfriend. You don’t need to be super skinny and starve yourself. You don’t need to change your image in order for someone to love you.

I am 19 years old. I kind of dated this one guy my junior year of high school, completely ignoring all those thoughts and concerns in the back of my head. I say kind of dated him because I didn’t really like him, he was way more into the relationship than I was, and it lasted less than a month. Not much of a relationship, huh? And the only reason I did it was because I thought I needed a boyfriend. I quickly realized I didn’t.

Girls, don’t give your heart away too soon. You don’t need a boy to make you happy! I haven’t dated a guy since my junior year because I realized that if I wanted to put in all the effort it took to maintain a relationship, I wanted the boy to be worth it.

Take things slow. You don’t have to start dating a guy just because you think you may like him. Last year (my freshman year of college), I met this guy who was in the marching band with me. He was nice. We hung out a few times as friends, and I started to think that I might want to date him. But after a week or so, I realized I didn’t. And I realized I didn’t even really like him as a friend. Can you imagine what would’ve happen if I had just thrown myself into a relationship only to find out a few days later that he was a creep? Not only would that hurt me, but also him. Completely not worth it.

All you beautiful girls out there need to realize that you are BEAUTIFUL! Brown hair, green eyes, blond hair, blue eyes, curly hair, straight hair- it doesn’t matter! Maybe you are a little curvy like I am. Thank makes you unique! That makes you special and beautiful! How boring our world would be with girls who all looked the same. Lame.

Just remember that you are made in the image of God. He made you beautiful. He loves you. Trust in Him. If you feel like you must have a boyfriend, pray to Him for patience and for your future husband. It will make you feel better, I promise.

You sister in Christ, Lucy

“God created man in the image of himself, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27)

“In love there is no room for fear, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear implies punishment and no one who is afraid has come to perfection in love.” (John 4:18)

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You trust in God, trust also in me.” (John 14:1)

Sick of Sociology

I’ve gotten a lot of blogging material from my Sociology class. And yet, again, this particular post will be about Sociology.

In my latest post, I shared with y’all my response paper on “sexist language.” Tonight, I am reading another article that I was planning on writing a response to for extra credit. However, I find myself at a loss for words.

How am I supposed to write a legitimate response when I will just be repeating what I’ve written in previous responses?

This article is on “privilege” and why it is important to “make [this issue] visible in legal doctrine.” It goes on to describe how we categorize (incorrectly it adds) gender as male and female. “A recent scientific article suggested that five genders might be a more accurate characterization of human anatomy, but there is a heavy systemic stake in our image of two genders.”

Five genders, huh? I’m confused on what those other three might be… This article explains that everything in our society is heterosexualized, that heterosexuality holds “privilege.” It gives examples such as “marriage”, “husband”, and “wife.”

And this all makes sense to me now… My sociology professor, on the first day of class, referred to her “partner” in explaining a specific issue. As you may imagine, the whole class was slightly puzzled, including me. I later found out that her partner was actually a man, but more than that. This “partner” was her husband! HER HUSBAND! But she refuses to say husband… it’s spouse or partner. I understand why now. Calling him her husband, I suppose, is part of this whole heterosexual privilege.

My goodness.

How am I supposed to response to this?! What am I supposed to say in response to this stupidity? Everything that I would WANT to say, I couldn’t because it would probably offend her, and seeing as she controls my grade… well, that might not be a great idea.

Keeping along with this theme of “privilege” in our society, in our class friday the issue of all boys colleges came up. Of course, this was a HUGE PROBLEM! How dare men have a university all to themselves and now admit women!! How DARE they leave out women! They must think they are better than us!

And yet, we live in a city with TWO ALL GIRLS UNIVERSITIES!!! Hellllooooooooo! Let’s open our eyes here, people.

There are all men’s colleges. And there are all girls colleges. It’s not sexist. It’s not a privilege thing!

Ugh. In conclusion… I will not be writing this extra credit response. The truth is, I can’t deal with this BS anymore. And yes, that’s exactly what it is. A bunch of complete nonsense. It’s tiring.

I have two papers still to write for this class. Two major papers. I have to be an “investigator” of inequality… So I’ll pretty much be telling her what she wants to hear.

In the last paper (which is my exam grade), I have to identify patterns within my response papers. One of the questions: “How has my sociological perspective developed over the semester?” I’ll let you guys know what creative answer I come up with. Should be interesting.

Night folks!

~Lucy

Sexist Language, huh?

Hey y’all. A few weeks ago I had to read this bogus article about “sexist language” and write a response to it. I wanted to share my response with you. However, before you read it, read the article I was responding to. =) I should also tell you yet again… this was in my sociology class. Scary stuff.

Check it out!!

http://www.alternet.org/story/48856/

Sexist Language, huh?

Ch. 2- Return to Romance

Hope everyone is having a great day, thus far.

Here is my commentary on Ch. 2 of “The Politically Incorrect Guide to Women, Sex, and Feminism.”

What ever happened to chivalry? I mean, honestly. What happened to guys opening doors for girls? Or guys making the first move to ask a girl out on a date?

I’ll tell you what happened! Feminists happened! And according to them “traditional gender roles in romantic relationships are sexist and stifling for women” (pg. 7). So, if a guy opens a door for me, he is pretty much saying “Here. Let me get the door for you. It’s too heavy for your female arms.” Please, people. If a guy offers to pay for your dinner he isn’t a misogynist! He is being polite and CHIVALROUS! He is showing you respect.

I have hope, nonetheless. I don’t think chivalry is completely dead.

While feminists have continuously striven for female empowerment (lol), “many women have experiences a loss of power int he post-sexual revolution dating environment.” Well, no DUH. I mean. Look at our society right now. Women are viewed as sex objects. We have to look a certain way, weigh a certain weight, have our hair a certain way, act a certain way. And everything is sexualized. It’s no wonder women have lost power in the dating arena. Men aren’t expected to act or treat women with respect. And when a girl comes along and says no to premarital sex, or doesn’t act or look a certain way, when they say NO to the Status Quo of being a sex object, to being “free”, guys don’t know what to do. It’s out of the norm for them. So, here is how I see this. Women have lost power in the dating scene because they have become sex objects. “Little or nothing is expected from men by the women who sleep with them.” (pg. 14) I don’t want to be the girl no one expects anything from! You better expect a lot out of me. You better respect me. No respect? I don’t want anything to do with you. I have a brain! I’m smart. Feminists are going about this all wrong. They are unable to see that women are MORE empowered when they don’t give a man sex, when they have self-respect, when they see the good in themselves. When they see that they are special and beautiful and smart.

I’m a traditional gal. A relationship is all about respect, and I usually know right off the bat is a guy is respectful or not. It’s pretty obvious by how he speaks, the language he uses, how he dresses, his mannerisms, etc. I have high expectations of people, especially guys.

And so. In our society today, virginity is not considered a virtue. It is something to be thrown away. Sex is not about love; it is about instant pleasure. My friends will tell me that I need to loosen up, have some fun. But there is nothing “fun” in dating every guy you come in contact with, nothing fun about sleeping with different people. I respect myself too much to be someone’s “notch on the bedpost”, or another girl to add to the list of girls they’ve dated. I want more out of life. But this doesn’t mean that I’m giving in to men. Oh no. I’m in control here despite what feminists may say.

The chapter continues like this. It talks about how divorce means nothing anymore. Marriage means nothing. If you get marry and decide you don’t like the person anymore… No biggy. Divorce them. Find another one.

There is “no obligation to continue the relationship” in our society. How sad is that?

I really enjoy the part of the different types of relationships, on pg. 12-13. The “joined at the hip” relationship. The “hanging out” relationship. The hooker uppers. In all of this, women have lost power. They’re blind to the truth!

I could keep talking about all of this, but I think you could get more out of it if you read the book. I urge all of you to get it! It’s really a great read, easy read also. Have a great day everyone!

~Lucy

“Therefore, I will hedge in her way with thorns and erect a wall against her, so that she cannot find her paths. If she runs after her lovers, she shall not overtake them; if she looks for them she shall not find them. They she shall say, ‘I will go back to my first husband, for it was better with me then than now.'” Hosea 2: 8-9

Ch.1-Pol. Incorrect Guide: Women, Sex, Feminism

Hi my fellow college conservatives! Hope life is treating you well.

As I mentioned on my Twitter earlier on, I have started reading “The Politically Incorrect Guide to Women, Sex, and Feminism” written by Carrie L. Lukas. I have finished Ch. 1 and am almost done with Ch. 2. I LOVE IT! I urge all of you to go grab it and read it. I bought it off of Amazon for about a buck… (shipping unfortunately was $5. gross). But 6 dollars still isn’t a lot.

I’ve decided that I am going to blog about it while I read through it. Get some of my ideas on paper, compare it to Sociology, which I have found so far is the complete opposite of what this book is arguing. I hope you all will follow along with me and also include your own thoughts. I would love to hear some of your ideas.

The introduction provides a little bit of background into the feminist movement: its humble beginnings (the “first-wave”), leading into the “second-wave”, which is when feminists began to push more for political and social changes, and now the “third-wave”, feminism spreading across college campuses, influencing public policy and popular culture and misinforming young women. Wrote a few notes in the margins…

Note: This book is exposing the problems and inconsistencies with feminism. Many of my notes are in agreement with what the book is talking about. =)

“…it’s old-fashioned to associate sex with marriage and love.” (pg. x) Um. I wrote a big, fat WRONG. Seriously, people. Is sex not the definition of love and marriage? Obviously not in our culture today, which saddens me extremely. Sex is a gift from God that should be between one man and one woman… Go ahead and blush. It’s the truth. It’s sad love has been turned into a farce. I find that my views on marriage and love, and yes, sex, is snubbed by my “friends.” They don’t understand why I want to wait until marriage, why I have this romantic view of love. But I believe that there is STILL such a thing as undying love today, even in our society of one-night stands and extremely high divorce rates. I pray every night that God blesses me with a great husband. I have faith He will.

“…women’s primary goal should be to work full-time and make money.” (pg. xi) Well, this is all and dandy, if it’s actually what a woman WANTS. But what about all the women out there, such as myself, who want to be mothers? This doesn’t mean they are saying that men have power over them. Feminists have such a misconstrued image of what marriage REALLY is. Maybe they should educate themselves.

Interesting point: The original feminist movement was created to get the rights men had. Well, I think they have succeeded. Don’t you? I can’t think of a law that enables men but prohibits women. If I’m wrong, please correct me. Feminists are just always geared for a fight though. They don’t know when to just stop. They want women and men to be interchangeable. And I hate to bust their bubble, but this will never happen. To be totally honest, I don’t want to be a man. I don’t want to be interchangeable with them either, no offense guys. Men and women are biologically different. There is no changing that, no matter how hard you try.

The idea that behavioral characteristics associated with women and men are constructed by society is one of THE major platforms of sociology. I am currently taking the class now at my university, and sociologists thing that EVERYTHING is constructed by the society we live in. While this may be true of certain things, gender and gender roles and characteristics of genders is NOT one of them. Sorry ’boutcha. I do want to get a good grade in that class, so I don’t outwardly disagree with my professor too much, but I just don’t understand where she gets half of the stuff for our class. It’s a load of hogwash to me. Because, honestly, men and women are just biologically different. It’s biology. Can’t mess with that.

And so we move onto pg. 2…. Yes. Men and women are different. But different does not mean worse! Yes. Women are different than men. Let’s deal with this fact. But just because I don’t look like a man, don’t have the same genetic make-up as a man, don’t have the same hormones as a man doesn’t mean that I am inferior to them! It’s just different. Men have things they are more capable of. Women have things they are more capable of. I told my sociology teacher that I thought women were biologically programmed to be better nurturers than men, and you would have thought I had just told her that I wanted her first born child (if she ever had kids of course). I shall tell you why I believe that women are better nurturers than men… Women are able to bear children. Men are not. Therefore, women (or at least most of them) have this mother thing programmed into them. They are able to feel the child growing inside of them. They are able to form a more intimate bond with the newborn than the fathers because, let’s face it, after spending 9 months pretty much joined at the hip, you better be close. This is not to say that men are not good nurturers. I just feel that women have a leg up on the whole nurturer, mother, parent thing.

Men and women each have their own strengths. Different can be good.

And on it goes. Feminists want a gender free society. Which can be obtained because gender is socially constructed. Uh huh.

They still argue that women still assume lower levels of achievement in business and politics (pg. 6). I don’t see how this can be true. I’m not too educated in the business arena, but I’m sure there are many female CEO’s. I would just have to research that a bit more. Politics I do know, however. What about all the women on Fox news? Megyn Kelly. Martha MacCallum. What about Hilary Clinton? Condoleezza Rice? Goodness, even Michelle Obama. There are many more. Seems like success to me. If women didn’t have equal rights, would I be able to blog about my opinions on the world-wide web? I’d have no say. No women would have any say. To all those radical, liberal feminists, I say back off. You won your fight years and years and years ago. Lay off!

Chapter 2 will be coming soon. Share your thoughts with me!

~Lucy

“The trouble with The Women’s Revolution is that we have not gone far enough because we indulge our fathers, husbands, brothers, sons… We accept the burden of being rational cause we know they’re testosterone-driven.” – Erica Long, a “Feminist Icon” (pg. 2) (This is sooooooo laughable, I can’t even tell you.)

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