I’m lying in bed a few nights ago, trying to sleep, but am kept awake thinking about life.
I had read a couple of comments on YouTube earlier that day that were disturbing to me. They were written by young girls pining for a boyfriend, for love, and how this song (“Just a Kiss by Lady Antebellum if you were interested) inspired them to tell the boy they liked how they felt. One of the girls was 14, I’m assuming an 8th grader.
Maybe you’ll ask, “Lucy, what’s so wrong with that?”
It worries me because it reminds me of what I see a lot in our society today. Girls are expected to maintain a certain image and they’re expected to have a boyfriend everyday of every week. So this is my public service post.
To all the young girls out there, and to all the young college girls like myself…
You are beautiful. You are special. You don’t need a boyfriend. You don’t need to be super skinny and starve yourself. You don’t need to change your image in order for someone to love you.
I am 19 years old. I kind of dated this one guy my junior year of high school, completely ignoring all those thoughts and concerns in the back of my head. I say kind of dated him because I didn’t really like him, he was way more into the relationship than I was, and it lasted less than a month. Not much of a relationship, huh? And the only reason I did it was because I thought I needed a boyfriend. I quickly realized I didn’t.
Girls, don’t give your heart away too soon. You don’t need a boy to make you happy! I haven’t dated a guy since my junior year because I realized that if I wanted to put in all the effort it took to maintain a relationship, I wanted the boy to be worth it.
Take things slow. You don’t have to start dating a guy just because you think you may like him. Last year (my freshman year of college), I met this guy who was in the marching band with me. He was nice. We hung out a few times as friends, and I started to think that I might want to date him. But after a week or so, I realized I didn’t. And I realized I didn’t even really like him as a friend. Can you imagine what would’ve happen if I had just thrown myself into a relationship only to find out a few days later that he was a creep? Not only would that hurt me, but also him. Completely not worth it.
All you beautiful girls out there need to realize that you are BEAUTIFUL! Brown hair, green eyes, blond hair, blue eyes, curly hair, straight hair- it doesn’t matter! Maybe you are a little curvy like I am. Thank makes you unique! That makes you special and beautiful! How boring our world would be with girls who all looked the same. Lame.
Just remember that you are made in the image of God. He made you beautiful. He loves you. Trust in Him. If you feel like you must have a boyfriend, pray to Him for patience and for your future husband. It will make you feel better, I promise.
You sister in Christ, Lucy
“God created man in the image of himself, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27)
“In love there is no room for fear, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear implies punishment and no one who is afraid has come to perfection in love.” (John 4:18)
“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You trust in God, trust also in me.” (John 14:1)